Disappointment

Every day we survive in life brings moments of happiness, joy, sadness, and frustration. We seem to get angry and hurt when others act in ways that we do not comprehend have trouble processing or identifying with. I think that these emotions are all tied together under one simple word "disappointment". I believe most of us are unattached to the reality of our feelings.We say "no you have not let me down" , but indeed they have. We are disappointed in their behavior or moral and ethical choices. We are disappointed in ourselves for not seeing through the facade sooner. We feel like the victim in some way. No one wants to admit that we could not see that side in another human. It is nice to think that we know people well enough to say "i would know if they were lying", but you see that is why it hurts so much... we believe the lie. Very disappointing when we see the truth. You are a victim and it hurts terribly to feel so helpless. The anger you feel is totally normal. It in many ways a mourning process. The stages of grief are all there in some way. Denial, anger, fear, frustration and guilt. Why did i not see this coming.

It is worse when we are disappointed in a best friend or lover because we know them so well. Yes we do know them but refuse to believe they would hurt us.He or she could never lie to or cheat on me... they love me. This person would never steal from me... they are my friend. We refuse to see the truth in front of us. It hurts us on so many levels. We need to see this hurt as a lesson. We need to mourn and grieve. We need to embrace the fact that we feel. Disappointment in others is also disappointment in ourselves. Let the emotions come and work through them. Embrace the lessons. We will be disappointed again. We will disappoint another. Grieve and live. Do not dwell there. It is human to err. It is super human to forgive and move through life in peace.